MONDAY MELTDOWN: Abusers! How to Set Boundaries: Zac Gandara

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When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated.
— Brené Brown

Even in our everyday relationships, there are signs of "abuse." The human race is not as self-aware as we should be. How do we recognize relationship abuse? How do we begin to set boundaries?

SIGNS OF AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP

  1. Does something, denies it, and then exclaims you are crazy. (Gaslighting)

  2. Accuses you of doing things you aren’t doing in which they are actually doing. (Projection)

  3. Does a great job at promising a great future and then delivering a nightmare.

  4. Are chronic liars and are highly manipulative.

  5. Uses guilt, charm, hope, love, obligation, fear, or confusion to get what they want, or to get you to do what they want.

  6. Often likes to agitate, provoke, argue, or “make you out to be crazy” and then pretends to not know why you are so upset.

  7. Has a “Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde” personality.

  8. Has a staggering lack of empathy and (sincere) remorse for their behavior.

  9. Yells, name calls, belittles, gives the silent treatment.

    (Source unknown. Producer Harmony Nicole sent these in. Thanks Harmony!)

 Brené Brown

Brené Brown

Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston where she holds the Huffington Foundation - Brené Brown Endowed Chair at The Graduate College of Social Work.

She has spent the past two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy and is the author of four #1 New York Times bestsellers.


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THE PRODUCERS OF THIS EPISODE ARE...

Brendan Gladney, Stacy Osiowy, Christian Grindstaff, Larry Overstreet, Heather Washburn, Alan Lamon, Michael Schmitt, Grace Kwon, Allen Mattox, Roberta Ballard-Myer, Alyssa Milan, Luis Castro Jr, T.O. Knowles, Jonathan Bowles, Thiago Bodini, Travis Turner, Samantha Davis, Mary Ratti, Justin Beal, Matt Proudfoot, Alf Herigstad, Kaeleb Reyes, Mekenna Rose, Rachael Wold, Morgan Weisz, Sarah Matthews, Jay Middleton, Diana Brown, John Stuart, Mandy Logan, Susan Ardrey, Blake Willis, Susan Lepin, David MacPhail, Tiffiny Kosloy, Hannah Wilson, Jessica Beal, Joshua Simpson, Harmony Nicole, Melissa Nikolov, and Anonymous Couple.

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Zac Gandara

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