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MONDAY MELTDOWN: How the Concept of Forgiveness is Used to Gaslight: Zac Gandara: Sophia King

MONDAY MELTDOWN: How the Concept of Forgiveness is Used to Gaslight: Zac Gandara: Sophia King

Monday Meltdown is our weekly time to chat with each other. This week…

Former show guest Lillith Starr posted this article “How the concept of forgiveness is used to gaslight women.” It’s a perfect meltdown for those of us who have been silenced and been gaslighted because we were hurt.

THINKING THURSDAY: Guilt and Shame in Relationships are a Sign of Toxicity: Zac Gandara: Esther Perel

THINKING THURSDAY: Guilt and Shame in Relationships are a Sign of Toxicity: Zac Gandara: Esther Perel

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

A fellow Loser wrote to tell me about Esther Perel on Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard. I loved it. Then my therapist mentions Esther Perel to me, encouraging me to watch her TED Talk. Here is an excerpt from her episode; let's talk about it.

EPISODE 142: How the Hell are We Still Married?: Zac & Jen Gandara

EPISODE 142: How the Hell are We Still Married?: Zac & Jen Gandara

Jen and I have been through a lot of stuff. We're often wondering. How in the hell are we still married? How have we been together for 18 years and not cheated on each other, left each other, divorced each other, or had kids? Well, our story isn't everyone, but it's ours.

EPISODE 103: I’m Not Your Guru. Please Don’t Make Me Your Guru: Seth Taylor

EPISODE 103: I’m Not Your Guru. Please Don’t Make Me Your Guru: Seth Taylor

“The trap of high experiences, however they occur, is that you become attached to their memory and so you try to recreate them. These memories compel you to try to reproduce the high."
-Ram Dass

I’ve many times been referred to watch I AM NOT YOUR GURU, a documentary about Tony Robbins and his experiential retreats.  I watched it right before recording with Seth, and it leads us into a discussion about my own thoughts on "teachings" and gurudom...