After years growing up around religious narcissists, then into a church led by them, I didn’t trust my instincts. I kept looking at someone outside of me to show me the way. Now I realize I always knew, deep down, inside of me.
After almost a year and a half of therapy, I have begun to realize that I don’t trust myself.
My decisions were always put through a filter of parental “honor”.
My decisions were put through a religious filter, the bible.
Then religious authority, pastors and elders.
Then friends, my spouse, and then my community.
Now, I’m not necessarily saying there is anything wrong with any of these, well, I am, but I’m not.
What I am saying is this pattern created a programming in my brain that stopped me from trusting my instincts.
I second-guessed everything I did. I feared that I’d make a wrong decision etc.
As I’m growing to trust myself again I have found that these 4 things are really helping me.
Avoid people who undermine your self-trust. (Binary People)
Build your confidence back up by looking back at the times you were right. (When you trusted your instincts)
Make myself promises and then keep them.
Take some time to really nail down some serious things you want in your life. Like people, jobs, serious relationships. Read them daily and see what steps you start taking.
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